The pain of admitting a stronger reality

“The main in the campaign to end violence against women is not to protect women but to respect women.”
-Ng Lai Oon

For the moment:
This Woman’s Work(Live Unplugged)-Maxwell

*After the previous post, I realize that I’ve not written about Men & Women, or my fascination towards to the relationship between the two or Women per se. Since I can’t think of anything at the moment, I dug up my ‘To Be Posted’ folder and found this post I wrote in September 2007. You must read it with the least possible amount of preconceive notion and the many years of social subconscious conditioning that you went through.

Of late, whether in this blog, or in the domestic or international arena be it of the east or the west, the impression towards women, and the whole gender issue respectively are either a little distorted or misintepreted. Down played or exaggerated.

With respect to this blog, I apologize, if (in the past or future) I have further fed the conundrum.

In any case, it is appropriate at this juncture to include this snippet.

In accordance with the teachings of Islam* (I resort to this form of phrasing it because I’m not sure if it is from the Qur’an or Hadith), three of the most painful things in this life are,

1. death
2. heart attack
3. giving birth

*I am not sure if it exists in other faiths. Thus I will refrain from pretending to speak about something I don’t know.

Of the three, one of which, a man will never go through. From one perspective, you could say that it is an experience no man will ever be privileged to. Something God allow only womenkind to experience and no one else. Not even the in betweens.

You could of course choose to not see it as a privilege. But having something no one else can purchase or develop, is a beautiful loss that goes a long way.

There are certain things, either by biological factors, instincts or nature that men are stronger at than women. vice versa. Both men, and women must remember this imperative equillibrium.

I trust that it should come to the surprise of at least a few, that it is in Islam that, among other things, women are stronger than men when it comes to pain.

Pain in what form specifically, I am not here to dispute and speculate. Prima facie, I assume that it goes to mean in all forms of pain. Albeit, that is indeed something one side is just better at than the other.

Live with it. Both of you. Women and men.