Swapping roles

“I’m so fed up of women right, who expect ‘things not to change’ when they have a child but expect men to totally change their lives.”
-Dina Khan

For the moment:
100% Dundee – The Roots
The Next Movement – The Roots
You Got Me – The Roots f/ Eve & Erykah Badu

From a/this man’s perspective,

Men and women would get along better and understand each other better, if they saw each other by getting in each others roles.

A research study (from which country I do not know) found that live in boyfriends contribute more to housework than husbands. How much more, I don’t know. How much is that much, I don’t know. I am not going to dwell into marriage roles stereotype here.

But from the way I see it, it has to go both ways. Not for equality’s sake, but for understanding’s sake. The degree of contribution of a man or a woman to their household should at its end, be unique and peculiar to them (the couple).

*If their household, relationship and well being works splendidly with the husband or wife not lifting a finger for housework, so be it. It works for them and who are you to dictate otherwise and label it as unfair. The ‘passive’ party may be contributing to the household is ways much less apparent to outsiders.

**Also the definition of equality, has been so distorted over the recent years, so I think it is pointless to even talk about that.

Anyway, for understanding sake. And especially for appreciation sake. Read this to understand abit.

Generally I admit and understand that men are more difficult to convince when it comes to this. But that’s just my generalization.

Try these two things;

When you go out, for a change, either randomly or routinely, the girl drives. I don’t wanna say ‘let’ the girl drive. That would imply a number of things. So try that. Try having the man, not driving (assuming he is the one who drives 100% of the time). And don’t let this happen because the two of you got into a fight and then he says ‘ok you drive’ and she says ‘exactly what I want to do.’

No. Do it willingly and have it agreed upon with no negative element or intention present.

When I taught English public speaking to my students, part of it they would read aloud sitting down, standing, and standing on a chair, then on a table. All in the same room, in the same period of time. But in all four different positions, they saw and felt differently, distinctively.

I’m not saying that that men should do more or equal amount of housework (or other things) than what is already of their coupleship understanding, and that women should do more driving. The idea is not about increasing or changing roles or shifting privileges and responsibilities. The idea is about literally putting yourself in the other persons shoe.

I’m not saying men should start wearing heels, but try asking a man to take a few steps in one. It’s not a permanent or ongoing experiment.

Now he might be too ignorant to consciously realise it, but trust me he’ll appreciate that (simple?) task more.